“If it feels good, do it!”

I am sitting at a cafe in Barcelona sipping coffee and munching a fabulous chocolate croissant. Chocolate croissants are the ultimate experience of “food pornography” – that naughty but nice bit of decadence that’s OK to do in foreign countries where no one knows you… As I slowly relish my pastry and coffee, I am
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Got sex? Does your relationship need “erotic recovery?”

Got sex?  Does your relationship need erotic recovery? I was just going over the notes from my interview with Dr. Tammy Nelson, author of Getting the Sex You Want. (You can listen to the entire interview for free by clicking this link http://lifetimeloveaffairsummit.com/series-registration). According to Tammy, after about 10 years of marriage and again after
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How to Develop a “Happiness Habit” in Your Relationship

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As you may have noticed, happiness is not the mind’s priority. It is far more interested in survival and creating familiarity than it is in happiness. Happiness is something that we have to decide to experience and then learn what are the internal levers that act to become our personal happiness generators. Happiness is an
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The Secret Ratio for Happier Relationships (Love the One You’re With – Part 2)

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I was at the Conference on Intimacy and Infidelity recently and had a chance to talk with the world-renowned researcher on marriage, John Gottman.  Together with his wife Julie, John Gottman’s research showed that couples who reported a ratio of 5 things that they appreciate about their partner for every 1 complaint that they have,
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Are You Having a “K-Mart Relationship?” (Love the One You’re With: Part One)

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I was re-listening to Arielle Ford’s interview on the Lifetime Love Affair Summit about “How to Wabi Sabi Your Relationship”, based on her new book, Wabi Sabi Love.  For those of you who missed it, Wabi Sabi is the ancient Japanese art of seeing the perfection in the imperfect.  The Quest for Perfection or How
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